stop & sit

when savannah was on spring break, she texted me & proudly proclaimed

that she had been out to dinner with her friends and the chaperones.

what was the proud moment you ask?
that she was dancing with the moms
& knew all the words to the classic rock songs at the restraunt.

i've trained her well.

rolling stones,the eagles, james taylor,

elton john, the doobies.

the list goes on.

years ago, she would roll her eyes when i would explain the importance 

of appreciating all the music genres. now she knows! 

tuesday night, i had what felt like a billion things to do

when i heard the older two yell up the stairs...

"tell mom, they're doing fleetwood mac on glee".

fleetwood mac is my favorite. 

landslide. songbird. oh yes, indeed!

they were practicing prom hair

& just hanging out.

those nights are fleeting as my savannah heads out in a few months.

but in that sweet simple moment,

wild horses couldn't have kept me away from sitting down there with them.
just being.

i'm the worst about stopping

& maybe even worse about sitting. 

i seldom sit down & enjoy hanging out with the girls.

ugh.

that's so embarrassing to admit.

 usually in the late evenings i'm winding down. or spending time with dan.

i'm not a tv watcher 

however, as my girls have turned (in the blink of an eye. thankyouverymuch) into teenagers, 

i've realized some of the best quality time

(second to taking them shopping)

is in the evenings.
usually while they're watching their shows, or when they've come in after an event.

a mentor of mine, who has since passed away, wrote in her book

that some of the best quality time with her teenagers was late in the evenings,

when she might prefer to be sleeping. but that she tried to be available to them,

in the event they wanted to talk or share about their day.

if i could encourage anyone to do better what i wish i had done more of,

it would be to stop & sit.

just spend time with them when they're in their element.
granted it's usually when you feel busy, or tired.
it seldom coincides when you have a free quiet moment,
but stop & sit
& soak it all in.


you wanna know the funny thing about that night,

or
maybe it's not so funny...
i can't even remember now
what i thought i was so busy with.